- John whined about Elly trying to make him a modern man when he was happy with who he was.
- Mike spent most of his youth in a snit because Elly tried to change how he dealt with having a younger sister.
- Thérèse is regarded as a horrible person mainly because she tried to change Anthony.
John's behavior highlights the selfishness that motivates the fear of change. I remember reading a strip wherein he tried to make Elly see things from his point of view. His premise is that it did nobody any good to make her happy if he wound up miserable. He didn't even realize or care that he could be taken to say that Elly had to spend her life unhappy and frustrated for the greater good because he didn't (and probably still doesn't) care about her happiness. As long as he's happy, nothing else matters. A good man would meet a person halfway if he loved her; he's too lazy to be moral. When you consider that his children share that indolence to some extent, you 'get' that these people won't try to better themselves.