- Is what you're agitated about actually a problem?
- If so, is the solution actually the right one?
In this instance, I don't really think that having Holly make her own mistakes is a problem because I know that handing her the answers just ain't going to work. She's a kid and she's just going to make a hash out of whatever Val says anyway so it's sort of futile to try to talk her into thinking and acting like a jaded forty year old yapping about kids these days. The problem is that Val don't want to hear that any more than she wanted to hear that most people didn't think that Ya-Ya Sisterhood helped women much.