dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

Elly and Liz: the key difference.

As nomiberg pointed out yesterday, Liz's life model is her mother. They both share the same feelings of helplessness, the constant sense that they've been wronged, the same belief in an exaggerated ideal of femininity from an earlier time, the same inability to see how they themselves contribute to the misery of their lives, the same lack of empathy for people who've inconvenienced them and the same lack of a sense of humor. There is, however, a big difference between the two women: they fear different things. Liz, you see, has always been anxious that nobody really liked her. Since her parents payed more attention to her more assertive siblings, she's always felt as if she was never going to find a place in this world in which she belong, never find someone who was there just for her. She's so desperate that she's willing to marry her stalker crush so she can get some devotion. Elly, on the other hand, has always had the fear that people didn't take her seriously. One of the main tensions of the Early Years was her dealing with people in positions of authority who dismissed her as just another housewife. The fear that nobody cared what she had to say has diminished over the years but not abated.
Tags: elly: lynn's fantasy self, liz: whining martyr

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