dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

Elly's path to falure as a mother.

debjyn is dead on when she says that Elly is the sort of woman who should never be the mother to small boys. There are three reasons for this. First, Elly has an inability-bordering-on-refusal to anticipate the behavior of people who aren't exactly like her. We spent the first years of the strip watching her act all horrified because children insisted on behaving and talking like children. She especially has problems dealing with male behavior which is the second reason she fails; she's made no secret of her active hatred for masculine men doing masculine things, preferring instead clammy castrates like Anthony. Since she expects them to not act like her and not like children, she gets disappointed again and again. This leads us to the third reason she fails; she regards being surprised as a personal affront. Most of the early material is, after all, Elly yelling at Mike because he insists on being a little boy and liking the things little boys do. This infuriates her because she doesn't understand why he'd act like a little boy and hates things she doesn't understand. Her ideal child is a soft, timid, passive, complaint little girl who'll do and say whatever she wants: Elizabeth. Once Lizzie got to the stage where she stopped moving around too much, Elly loved her to pieces and wasn't shy about saying it. Her rubbing Mike's nose in the fact that he didn't measure up because he wasn't a cute little living doll had the nasty side-effect of making him hate his kid sister. Not, of course, that she could see that due to her refusal to put herself in someone else's shoes. it should also be mentioned that her refusal to deal with active children who speak up for themselves goes a long way to explaining her hateful desire to disown April. Her youngest didn't play "fair" and sit still for Mommy, you see.
Tags: child rearing disasters, elly: lynn's fantasy self

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