February 22nd, 2010

Snarky Candiru2

Elly and the other parents: a study in enforced isolation.

The upcoming parents-teacher conference arc does more than remind us that Mike is an indifferent student taught by a time-server and being enabled by a delusional mother; it reminds us that Elly doesn't know all that much about his friends' families. She's close to Connie because Elly thinks of her as the cool older sister she thinks she deserves but, aside from being unable to avoid Carol Enjo and Annie Nichols, she knows next to nothing about the parents of the children her kids associate with. I can almost understand this when we're discussing April's friends; that's because I remember that Elly is about fifteen or so years older than most of the parents of the people April hangs out with; this means that forworse is probably right to assume that Becky's mother is the same Karen who used to sit for them back in the early eighties. The reason Elly gives for this reticence to socialize is that she doesn't think that she has much in common with them; this seems sort of odd because John pointed out that she could have served as a voice of experience to the younger mothers. This, of course, cannot be said to be the case when it comes to dealing with the parents of Michael and Elizabeth's friends; Elly could very easily have become part of those families' lives but chose not to. Given her fear that she might after all be destined to be nothing more than a housewife, I think the real problem can be described as her not wanting to find out that she has anything in common with the other parents. If she does find common ground with these other women, she'd have to admit that neither she or her children are destined for greatness; what's more, she'd have to abandon the sweet, sweet fantasy that The Man is trying to destroy her because she's too cool for the room. The end result is that the people of Milborough see her as a standoffish nutcase who yells at nothing and won't socialize.