August 31st, 2015

Snarky Candiru2

The blind spot of the woman paying for things.

Of course, it's not just Mike and the others that dislike back to school shopping. Elly also resents how something she thinks should be simple is yet another ordeal. As we've seen, are seeing and shall see, she clearly thinks that life would be a damned sight easier if the children didn't turn every little thing into a pitched battle. What she doesn't see is that they're not really the ones escalating things into something ugly time after time.

This is, of course, because just as Michael doesn't want to really admit that teachers aren't fun-hating monsters or that he isn't as smart, cool or popular as he'd like to think or especially that people's feelings matter to them even if he can never feel their pain, Elly doesn't want to ever admit that she's a thin-skinned woman who doesn't like it when people disagree with her on any issue any more than she wants to admit to having a victim complex or volcanic temper. Her need to mentally edit out all the times that she escalated instantly from normal person to raging maniac the instant someone displayed the least bit of a difference of opinion means that she can't learn from the past because she blinds herself to all the times she made a big deal out of something that she later realized wasn't.

This, I think, is the reason that isn't "not wanting to look weak lest they destroy her" that she never apologizes for turning into a huffy maniac screaming about how she's not going to get angry. She remembers herself as being calmer because she always resented her mother for describing her as always trying to pick fights because she needs to feel angry and hurt to feel good about herself. It doesn't make sense to Elly that she's this angry person who wants to feel victimized and mistreated all the time because that doesn't sound healthy.
Snarky Candiru2

Death, Elly and how hers will fix Michael.

As I've said in the past, a lot of the problems Mike has in life can be ascribed to his wanting something of very little value: the love and attention of a stupid woman who can't allow herself to give it to him because she confuses doing so with allowing him to feast upon her brain or some damned thing. I also hinted broadly that most of his problems at school come from the fact that studying and getting good at things take too long and aren't appreciated anyway because we're dealing with an idiot who, while resenting the fact that her own mother never gave her the endless pats on the head and mindless praise she wanted, assumes that if Mike gets any sign she approves of him, he'll be ruined forever.

It came to me that the only way to cure Mike of the need to plow through people and lives in order to get the worthless prize of Elly's affection and praise is to remove her from the equation permanently. While I anticipate a longish period in which Mike makes stupid, irrational comments about how Liz and April were in the way of his happy endgame, it seems to me that well before the time Meredith is complaining about how her children are not getting along, Mike will be finally in a place to realize what a chump he was all his life trying to pry respect from someone who saw him not as a person but as an extension of herself.

This will, of course, probably be the inspiration for a lousy, overwrought novel about a dumb kid in some stifling suburb expecting too much of a fragile, paranoid basket-case who could never allow herself to find happiness in life because she thought happiness was for stupid people but the knowledge that he was basically spinning his wheels wanting something useless would at least allow him to get his head on straight. Simply put, Elly can have the son she'd love to have. All she's gotta do is die.