March 13th, 2018

Snarky Candiru2

The looming shape of incompetent parenting.

As I have mentioned in the past, most of why Elly is haplessly inept as a homemaker and cook is that she's being really bad at impersonating her mother. She watched her mother go through her paces, she misinterpreted what she was because she's not very bright and she insists that the hash she made of what her mother was doing is the only right way to do things. Thus do we have furious sweepings of porches, piles of ineptly done laundry and stodgy casseroles that no one eats because her mom relied on a crock pot while she had to help Jim at the jewelry shop.

The reason that I mention this is that it's kind of obvious that the reason the deluded dunderhead thinks that her job is to angrily bitch at her children and never show any sort of weakness lest she get run over is not just that she's a bully who never grew out of the habit. She's a bully who was the bane of Marian's existence who had to be yelled at for actually doing and saying terrible things. Since the angry, defiant and destructive monster girl had to have someone standing over her telling her to think about what treating people like she did was and how Marian had to live in her community, that's what the pea-brain thinks parenting is: standing over a child and hollering about everything they do.
Snarky Candiru2

The turd and the gilded cage.

As I write this, I do so in the knowledge that it's been pretty much ten years since we had to watch April make an ugly fool of herself not admitting to what an armpit Becky's life actually is. While we see a damaged person who craves human contact, the deluded ding-dong April has it in her head that a lonely existence where she's a walking, talking object lesson for every envious jerk who wants to console him or herself with the idea that people doing better than they are actually envy the also-ran muttering about putting on one pants leg on at a time is actually exalted and happy and Becky actually is having a great time really because that's what happens on television.

The reason that I mention this is that it's the justification she uses for her unpleasant habit of lashing out at anyone she perceives as having betrayed her. It isn't that she's got a lot of rage and jealousy and envy stored up ready to fling at someone who pisses her off, it's that someone is making fun of her even though they aren't. Eventually, people will probably stop engaging with her for fear that saying the wrong thing will lead to insane accusations and years of broken friendships.