April 12th, 2021

Snarky Candiru2

On the rejection of the circle of life.

The interesting thing about Elly is that she while she falsely claims that she doesn't mind getting older, she's telling the truth when she said that she wanted very much to freeze her parents' age in place. She said more than she wanted to when she told Phil that it's okay that Jim and Marian didn't want to stop being the parents because she was never ready to stop being the child. This tells me that when Jim finally passed, it's pretty much certain that Elly described herself as being an orphan now and people were forced to agree with her.

The reason that I mention this is that you'll notice that I mentioned that it really bothers her that she herself is aging. I myself ascribe it to an insane overreaction to being treated with the deference due a wife and mother but the idea that she's an old crone whose best years are past her has plagued her since she was twenty five years old. This means that she isn't going to find it delightful or reassuring that her children wish they could have more time with her as the years burn away. All she's going to think is that they're carving her grave marker and wondering which one gets to kick the dirt into the hole.