August 21st, 2021

Snarky Candiru2

On the denial of discomfort.

The interesting thing about Martha is that everyone who isn't a Patterson knows that Mike's claims that he no longer feels anything real for her are a lie. Why else would he go back to tuning her out and trying to make her into the fantasy Martha he'd like to be married to deep down? The reason, I think, is damned obvious: he shares a family tendency to avoid anything that might stir him up emotionally and have to react to the world instead of being a sort of tourist in this world.

After all, if he has to acknowledge regret for his actions or wonder if he went about things the right way or asked himself what it was that she wanted, he'd have to stir himself to action and that's not something he's fond of. His preferred stage is a cozy complacency where he doesn't have to think or act or care so being dragged out into a world where he knows what people think of him is to be avoided. The best way to do that is to not think about mistakes and not learn from them.