dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,
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On family-unfriendly moral lessons.....

Whenever I see Mike and Liz together in the early years, not only do I see him mistreat her and essentially get a free pass for doing so, I've noticed that it's depicted as something that's just part of life so she shouldn't really complain about it because it makes the family look bad. That's because Elly is far more worried about looking like she's got things under control than the irrelevant feelings of her children. As I've said before, she never seriously tried to reassure Mike that he wouldn't be tossed to the curb like a bag of Halloween candy now that they had a new baby in the house because that would require her to not only understand that his feelings on the subject differ from her own but to see them as somehow having an effect on her life. Later, she'd fail to see how her waffling refusal to do something constructive about his casual cruelty made Lizzie feel unloved; again, she was more concerned that strangers would look down on her than she was that her child felt like a second class citizen. Her ulitmate act of preferring image to substance, of course, came years later when she hid the fact that April nearly drowned owing to her negligence. The healing process from that near-catastrophe involved never pointing the finger of blame at a flapping, honking idiot who steals candy and reduces her children to pathetic dependence to her for approval.

Tags: child rearing disasters, elly: lynn's fantasy self
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