dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

Elly Patterson: the third heart in the happy ending machine.

The real problem I do have with Elly's over-concern with what Connie and Phil do with their free time is not that she misreads Phil's motives horribly due to her being a resentful, misandrist twit. It doesn't really affect things that she cannot see that Phil wants to be just good friends with Connie and that's it; even Connie herself eventually admits that Phil did not mislead her as to his intentions so Elly's belief otherwise is irrelevant. It also doesn't matter that she thinks that Connie is a passive victim who was led on; again, Connie tearfully admitted that she was responsible for her humiliation as she wondered what was wrong with her that she constantly threw herself at men who weren't marriage minded. It isn't even that Elly's need to control Phil's life by getting him to settle down and dust off that electrician's licence he has in his wallet so he can get a real job instead of playing music she can't sing along to; the other characters have adapted to her sullen inability to see that there's more than one way to live. What is wrong is that she's making it all about her. Like all the other times she nails herself to her cross, she does so because she takes herself too seriously and thinks she's far more important that she really is. A sane person with a healthy self-image would regard the Phil-Connie non-relationship as being neither her fault or responsibility and get on with her life. Since Elly is a narcissist with paranoid tendencies, she can't leave well enough alone and since she's too stubborn to admit she's wrong, she never learns. This tendency to overestimate her importance and believe that people are trying to destroy her came into play about a quarter of a century later when she went out of her way to disrupt Thérèse's life because she represented an obstacle to her baffling ambition to get Liz and Anthony married. Given how she went out of her way to marginalize and malign a stranger who'd done her no harm by any standard that normal people could agree upon and value, it's obvious that she couldn't let That Woman's marriage stand because it represented a personal affront. That's because the same woman who thinks that it's a reflection on her if Phil and Connie don't get together thought that Thérèse proposed to spite and ruin the life of a woman she barely knows.

Tags: connie: the real lynn, elly: lynn's fantasy self, phil: bee and bop king, sitting duck therese

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