dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

Mike and Deanna: the absenteeism effect…

One of the things that we’re going to see as the years go on is that Mike has it in his head that Elly is never really there for him when he needs her to be. While it’s convenient to ascribe this to his listening too well to John’s stream of misogynistic rantings and observing that he’s “right” to demean the women around him, there’s more going on than his being brainwashed into becoming the next immature, entitled dolt patriarch. We have to contend with the fact that Elly actually is a reluctant parent; not only is she filled with anxiety about her place in the world, she’s not comfortable around children and it shows. The end result is a little boy who’s either wondering what’s wrong with him that she has to avoid him or what’s wrong with her that raising him isn’t good enough for her and who is destined to grow into a man who wants a wife who feels guilty about having a life outside the home. How fortunate for him that Deanna's need to not be Mira means that he has one. The curious thing is that Elly’s visible absence is what appeals to Deanna; the fact that Elly is in the background instead of a dominating presence appeals to our Stepfordized heroine who resents the well-meaning rhinoceros she calls a mother for looming over her instead of letting her vegetate like a Patterson. Her need to prove her hated mother wrong not only means that she deprives her children of things for their own good, she also cheers on every stupid decision her idiot husband makes. Given that Mike remembers how Elly was always in his or John's face when they did something dumb, this appeals to him.

Tags: from the nursery to the grave., mikerobe: the universal infant

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