dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

The freeloader syndrome

Phil's extended stay at the Pattermanse reminds us that the Pattersons tend to have a bit of difficulty with the seemingly simple task of discouraging freeloaders from exploiting their need to impress people by letting themselves be exploited. What I mean by this is that not only do we have to contend with the sort of self-defeating behavior that caused Elly to bend over backwards to accommodate adult children who could look after themselves, we also need to realize that there's a lot of self-indulgence involved in the sardines-in-a-tin lifestyle that preceded the Housening. John and Elly might have hectored the picky-face about how it would be cruel to turn Mike, Dee and the Patterspawn out on the street but they weren't being straight with her; it seems to me that they did so not only to save Mike's family from Sobinski family politics (whatever the flying f-word THAT means), they also wanted to impress the neighbors by showing them that they could well afford to be imposed on by an ungrateful spoiled brat. What really hurts is that a woman who wanted to help because she didn't want her daughter and grandchildren to be sacrificed on the heathen altar of Mike's vanity was given the name of monster and her real generosity ascribed to an attempt to manipulate people.
Tags: one big oblivious family

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