dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

The Pattersons and how they see their immediate family.

It's not enough that the Pattersons have such warped self-images and that they tend to view the world outside of the bunker that they've moved themselves into as being a terrifying and confusing place filled with jealous and mean-spirited people; we also have to contend with their thinking of each other in ways that are as inaccurate as their self-assessments. Let's contrast what each person thinks of the other with the truth. We, of course, start with Elly; she clearly seems to see John as being not being very supportive of her needs when it's closer to the truth to say that his need to be a wiseass is the only defense he has against meekly saying 'Yes, dear' to her insane demands. She also never realized that Mike is deeply insecure about his place in the world and needs to be reassured that the people around him care nor has she ever realized the same about Lizzie. To her, they crawl all over her not because they want love but because they hate the idea of her freedom.

Speaking of people who hate the idea of her freedom, John clearly seems to have never realized that Elly never sits down when there's a chore to feel guilty about; he looks at the house, estimates that it'd take him 30 or 40 minutes work each day to keep tidy and assumes that Elly has loads of free time. He also doesn't seem to have grasped that his children aren't plotting his overthrow when they ask questions he doesn't feel like asking. Hell, he doesn't even know how insecure his kids are.

The first bundle of insecurity is Mike; despite his belief that John and Elly are rock colossi of unshakable authority, they spent most of their time as parents in a state of panic. The idea that they feared him is something that he'd discount out of hand. He also clearly doesn't seem to realize that it isn't Lizzie's fault that she's not the kid brother he wanted or that her feelings actually matter.

The same inability to realize that her parents aren't subjecting her to their rules because they know everything applies to Liz; she also doesn't seem to realize that Mike isn't purely motivated by malice. She doesn't know that he fears being tossed out into a dumpster with everything else that's obsolete.

What's more, none of them know who Deanna and Anthony are; the idea that Dee is suffering from Munchausen's by proxy or that Anthony is a shallow, heartless, lazy manipulator is something none of them can see.

About the only person around who sees them as being the people they really are is the one they have the least time for: April. This is because she fell under Jim's spell and keeps hitting them with a personal responsibility trip.
Tags: one big oblivious family

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