The form this takes this week is Mike's baffling-to-Elly reluctance to bathe himself and even more baffling reluctance to march into bed so Mommy and Daddy can sit on the couch and whine about how awful it is that these horrible little freeloaders cramp their style. Now, I know (despite not having or especially wanting children) that it's a really difficult thing to get a reluctant child to bathe and go to sleep when he or she doesn't feel tired. I also know that a lot of people resent the guidebooks telling them that it should a really simple thing to do. What I myself resent is the active hostility to the children I see here. It's one thing to be pissed off at a kid because he can't wrap his head around getting clean or to bed when there's good stuff on TV. That being upset marches hand in hand with the knowledge that said offspring hasn't got life figured out yet. What I take away from FOOB is Elly/Lynn's clear belief that her children do know better but they just don't want to because it would make Mommy happy and they hate that because they're evil and worship CHAOS.
What would never occur to Elly at all is that Michael equates having to clean himself with having to clean his room in that in both situations, he's being punished severely for merely existing. This is because Elly never really understood that her children thought of her as waking up and thinking "What horrible thing will I do to the children I loathe today?" or that she enjoyed tormenting them because mothers are cruel and have no sense of human and love to punish children for breathing. Sure, there were occasions in which she did seem to pick up on the fact that she came across as a filthy sadist but she immediately forgot the lessons she learned because it got in the way of thinking of herself as a victim.