dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

"Stop talking to me......": Elly's need to not listen to the facts.

So far, I've reminded you of certain mental peculiarities Elly has that made it very difficult for her to accept that Mike's plan to wear a goofy little kid's idea of a punk rock costume is a harmless thing that she should have gone along with. I've covered her fear of the unfamiliar, her need to assume the worst, her belief that everyone hates her and wants her to suffer by denying her the chance to contribute to the discussion as well as her being not very smart at all.

The problem is that fear, paranoia, negativity and stupidity aren't the only things that keep Elly from learning anything. Vanity is also part of the problem. Elly simply cannot admit that she doesn't know what she's talking about or that she's letting ignorance and fear make her decisions for her. This is because she believes that were she to have admitted that she reacted badly because she was scared and that she thought Michael didn't love her any more and that she didn't know enough to make any sort of meaningful decision and especially that she needs to feel as if she matters, she will lose the right to be a parent because she willingly lost face. To her, it's better not to budge from a bad decision made out of ignorance and fear so she can preserve her credibility than to give up her power by being right. The fact that she looks less than credible being an unyielding rock of misinformed panic escapes her.
Tags: elly on her cross, elly versus herself

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