dreadedcandiru2 (dreadedcandiru2) wrote,

How to manufacture malice....

The really annoying thing about Elly not learning from her mistakes is that she can't see that she's the real reason that Mike and Liz hate one another. Her default assumption that her son was up to something bad because she was projecting the images of her own fractious youth on the blank canvas of her children made life harder for everyone. He didn't, after all, start out hating Liz. What always happened was that he'd be engaged in normal horseplay, Nizzie faww down doe BOOM and Elly would swoop down like a vulture, bellow at him and apply really inconsistent discipline. Since Mike was a kid, for Christ's sake, he started to think that Lizzie was doing this on purpose because he couldn't wrap his head around the fact that people aren't all on the same page, mental-development wise. Elly's consistent misreading of the situation around her created the hostility she assumed because Mike was easily as stubborn as she was, just as tenacious in holding on to his misapprehensions. Always and ever, he thought that the world was arrayed against him and he had to fight, had to rebel against an oppressor with a stuffed rabbit. Elly's inconistent discpline, default hostility towards any viewpoint other than her own, refusal to admit error and all-around laziness led inevitably to two children being pitted against one another. Only occasionly did she admit this to herself. The rest of the time, she thought she could shout her way to Utopia. Since John thought of himself as Joe LastResort: Emergerncy Standby Parent, things were allowed to reach their natural conclusion: two screwed-up pseudo-adults who endanger theselves and those aroundthem.
Tags: child rearing disasters, mikerobe: the universal infant, one big oblivious family, sheet shaver

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